It’s easy to stop an addiction, the challenge is to face what we’re running from. Most often we don’t even know why we do what we do; reach for food, a cigarette, drink alcohol, take drugs, etc. we just automatically do it because it “makes us feel better.”

An addiction is a way for us to see that something isn’t right internally. It’s an outer appearance of an inner disturbance. It’s a conditioned response that we became committed to, and it served at a time, but at a certain point it started being harmful for me and you.

So, what are addictions really? One might say, “Drugs, alcohol, food, sex, cigarettes, TV, internet, chasing after money and things, etc.” Those are the “sub” stances, we’re not really addicted to those things per sey, we’re addicted to the feelings that they give us, which is often a sense of relief. Relief from what you might be asking? That’s a great question. Most often addictions are formed during a time when we didn’t know how to deal with a situation and we found a “sub” stance that helped us to relieve our “uncomfortable” feelings.

Addictions are anything that we use to run from ourselves, life, our deepest desires or to fill a void inside. We might use a “sub-stance” to numb our painful feelings, soothe our anxiety or to hide our feelings of inadequacy, weakness, loneliness, not feeling good enough or not being a “perfect” human being.

It’s easy to stop an addiction, the challenge is to face the affliction. To take a look within and become our own loving friend. Many of us are carrying past hurts and wounds that are keeping us in a cocoon. As long as we keep those hidden, we’ll feel anxious every time we have a feeling. We’ll automatically reach for something to soothe the “pain” believing that the “sub-stance” will keep us from going insane.

“By Loving every feeling that arises, we’ll no longer be fooled by the minds disguises”

By allowing our feelings to naturally flow, accepting and facing what’s happening in our earthly show and BEing with ourselves in loving ways, we’ll no longer need food, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes or whatever we use to numb our feelings or the pain. I know, sounds easy peasy eh?

Many of us are carrying past hurts and wounds, things that happened long ago that we didn’t know how to deal with at the time. We may or may not be consciously aware of what’s going on deep inside, we just struggle with life, drink alcohol, eat, smoke, take drugs, distract ourselves or hide and we don’t know why, the why is because of the hurt, pain and unresolved issues that we’re carrying inside.

We’re not meant to carry our past with us and until we heal by allowing ourselves to feel, we’ll be living life on a hamster wheel. Running around in circles not really going anywhere, maybe the outer will change, but the inner often stays the same, we’re still seeing the world through our hurt and pain, doing blame and shame, trying to protect ourselves in this earthly game.

How do we know if we’re addicted?
We feel panic, disturbed/anxious or uncomfortable if we can’t have or do it. It’s an obsession that controls our thoughts, feelings and behaviors; we believe it’s our “savior.”

We get initial pleasure, but that pleasure is short lived and we “need it” in order to feel okay and sometimes to get through the day. We fear threats to that pleasure and we worry about changes in our life that will deprive us of that pleasure.

It gives us a sense of control, we feel that everything’s okay, as long as we can do or have our addiction today.

We would rather “use/do” then experience our deepest truth and our heartfelt dreams and desires, it’s a priority over anything else. Sometimes we feel “it’s never enough” and we feel compelled to do “just a little more.”

It disrupts our lives and our relationships.

We often say to ourselves that we’re going to do something different, but then we turn around and “automatically” keep doing the same thing, or we do it even more.

An addiction is more then the substance itself, for some, there’s a whole structure/ritual involved; time, place, when, where, how, etc., it’s an “automatic” response/conditioning we’ve developed from repeating a pattern over and over again. It’s something we don’t even “think” about, we “just do it.”

What happens when we do an addiction is we go into a trance, thinking everything’s okay, but is it really? We might think so because we’re in a fog.

If you’re someone who’s struggling with an addiction, here’s something to ponder; would you rather be “safe” and keep experiencing the same life day by day? Or, would you rather BE free, let your feelings, creativity, joy and loving energy flow more naturally, expand, learn and grow, and experience even more of YOU and life in this earthly show? Just take a moment to BE with these questions.

Many of us have become identified with the addiction, we believe it’s who we are and the only way we know how to BE, it provides a false feeling of comfort and safety and letting go feels like death to our identity, and in a sense it is, but this is a good thing.

There are many reasons why one would choose some form of addiction/substance, most often it started during a painful experience when we didn’t have the tools to cope with our feelings or we didn’t feel safe in our environment.

Here’s an example from my own life; when I was in elementary school I was teased for many things, one of them was for being fat. I never felt like I “fit in” and even though I was teased for being fat, I found that when I ate I felt better. Soon enough I started eating more and more as it seemed to soothe my feelings of loneliness and being unlovable and rejected, food became a “sub” stitute for LOVE and relationships.

My mind and body linked eating with feeling good and filling that loneliness/emptiness with food. Now, whenever I wanted to feel better, when I was feeling lonely or I was put in a situation that I didn’t know how to deal with, (which for me was life itself) I “automatically” reached for food, not really understanding “why” I was doing it, it became a conditioned response I programmed my nervous system to do.

I said that I wanted to stop eating so much, but it just seemed too challenging because I was emotionally attached to the feelings that food gave me, it became my friend, my protector/savior and something inside of me wouldn’t let it go (secondary gain). I was able to stop eating excessively for awhile, but eventually I “automatically” reverted back to eating lots of food again.

The shift happened for me when I turned 13 and my doctor told me to go on a diet, I started eating less and less and exercising more and more and I eventually became anorexic. The LOVE and attention I got for being thin was now filling that emptiness, this became my new savior, but was it really?

Nope, it was the opposite side of the same coin, I was still running from myself and life and feeling lonely, anxious and unlovable inside. I didn’t want to grow up, I didn’t feel capable of taking care of me, I hated myself and being on this life journey.

When I was a child, I was told “no” to almost everything I wanted, and anytime I expressed how I felt, I was told that I was wrong or stupid and my family would get mad at me. Soon enough, anytime I wanted something or needed to express myself, I would get an anxious feeling inside because “It wasn’t right” and I turned to food, exercise, taking pills or trying to take my life to numb what I was feeling inside.

I bought into the misunderstanding that it wasn’t okay for me to BE me, to express myself or want anything, if I did, I was a “bad” human BEing and I wouldn’t BE LOVED by my family. My core issue/belief was that “I didn’t deserve to live” and I was acting in accordance with that idea, living in self abuse, lack, limitation and fear.

The secondary gain/reward for “following the rules” was “If I acted in accordance with my family’s rules, I would BE LOVED.”

For over 23 years I was in and out of numerous hospitals and treatment centers struggling with anorexia and other eating disorders, exercise addiction, depression, taking drugs and having many suicide attempts. I did anything I could to numb the pain, anxiousness and fear that I was feeling inside, I hated myself and I hated life.

Stopping the addictive behaviors was easy, I finally made a decision/commitment to self LOVE, inn er peace, health and happiness; healing on the other hand wasn’t an easy experience.

When I stopped exercising, using drugs, eating or starving to numb my feelings, my heart raced, I got anxious, I went into panic mode, got headaches, body aches and I sweated and shaked. I cried many tears and I experienced a lot of fear. But no matter how I felt, I wouldn’t do anything to numb my feelings or stop my body from doing what it needed to do, I just let that energy flow through.

For many of us who stop an addiction, this happens, our bodies get so used to BEing a certain way and when we start to change, they call us back saying “Hey, I need you to stay the same, I need to protect you from the hurt and pain, even though I’m hurting you.”

This is why so many of us can stop for a few days, but then our bodies call us back with “Hey.” It may not be easy at the beginning, but once we get through the “detox” we become more free to make healthier choices that allows us to live in peace, LOVE, happiness, health and harmony IF we’re also willing to do the inner healing and LOVE ourselves unconditionally.

Some might say it takes 21 days to break a habit/addiction. Actually, it takes a second, it’s a choice, but sometimes it takes 21 days or longer to condition our nervous system to experience a new way of BEing. We do this by making conscious choices and doing the inner healing by accepting, forgiving, shifting and bringing LOVE to the parts that are hurting.

Nothing will change until we’re willing to look within and go to the root cause, the issue behind the issue/addiction. Once we discover the root cause, it’s then that we can start the process of loving and healing and see how what we’re growing through is serving.

There’s always a positive reason why we do what we do and why we follow the “hidden rules” the key is to understand what that positive reason is for you and me, and to find healthier ways to meet our needs today.

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It’s also important to help the younger one inside of us heal, grow up, and experience a more loving and healthy way of BEing. What do you mean by “grow up” you might be asking?

That’s a great question. What happens when something in our lives is challenging and we don’t know how to deal with it, that energy gets stored somewhere in our bodies and we continue to respond and react from that same situation, even if it’s 20, 30, 40 years later. We’ve grown up physically, but not emotionally, there’s a part of us that’s “frozen” in time.

We get unfrozen by bringing LOVE, compassion and understanding to that part of us, assisting them in seeing things in a new light and helping them to feel okay, safe and LOVED. By doing so, this shifts our energy in a way, that we’re no longer acting or re-acting from our past hurts and pains, instead, LOVE and loving becomes our natural way.

Challenges are a part of life, we’re going to have them, they help us grow. The key in moving through our challenges more easily is to notice them as a blessing and see the great opportunity for healing and SELF discovery/uncovery.
How we relate to ourselves while going through the issue IS the issue. When we’re loving and gentle with ourselves as we move along this journey, we’ve mastered the core of all learnings.

Why are addictions harmful to us?
When we’re in a trance/addiction, we’re in a fog, we’re blocked from experiencing our true nature; our internal guidance, we’re running on automatic, letting our unconscious dictate our lives, we’re living in the past instead of making conscious/healthy choices today.

We’re caught in a limited perception and point of view of who we are and what we can experience and do. We run from ourselves, life, our deepest passions and we don’t get to experience our true fashion.

Some of us might be able to create a successful life on the outside and look like we “have it all together” but inside, we’re not at peace and every day we deal with an internal beast.

Some of us on the other hand use a “sub-stance” because we feel powerless in creating the life we desire, it keeps us from feeling our internal fire. Somewhere along the way, we bought into a misunderstanding that it’s not okay for us to enjoy our lives, BE ourSELVES and take our talents off the shelf. This misunderstanding keeps us feeling trapped and confused, not even trying because “what’s the use.” We’ll never really feel happy inside IF we run and hide from our TRUTH, and what our heart desires for us to experience in earth school.

Depending on the addiction, it can be an attack against ourselves, a form of self punishment. It might not feel that way, because the “sub-stance” makes us feel okay, but if we’re hurting our bodies in any way, I think ya know what I’m gonna say eh?

Some addictions make people moody and not fun to be around. This might be a way that one uses an addiction to “push” people away so “they” won’t activate their pain. (secondary gain)

Some addictions can create illness, disease and destroy our bodies, but we don’t think about that because we just want a quick fix or a way to escape our pain and misery.

Addictions can take over our lives; it becomes more important than anything else and can create tension in our work environments, close relationships and with our family.

If you’re struggling with an addiction, here are some questions you can ask yourself:
What am I running from?
What am I NOT wanting to face about myself and/or life?
What is the real issue behind the addiction?
How is it serving me to…?
What would I be doing if I wasn’t acting in my addiction?
What need is it filling??
What does my heart say about the addiction?
What am I hiding about myself or my life?
How would I think, act and feel if I was living my passion, my joy, my excitement, my creative expression?
What am I learning from it?
What would it be like for me to be free and follow my heartfelt dreams, without needing a substance to get through life and ease the pain?
Am I willing to change?
Could I ever LOVE myself enough to stop doing the addiction?
What does inner peace feel like?
What does being healthy look and feel like to me?
What’s the best that could happen if I let go of the addiction?
What would my life look and feel like BEing addiction FREE?
How would someone who LOVES themselves treat themselves?

Self awareness is NOT to beat ourselves up or judge ourselves in any way, it’s to compassionately view what’s going on inside and see how we’re creating our lives. It gives us the opportunity to make conscious choices instead of being dictated by the “fearful” voices. It helps us see what’s asking for loving and healing.

We have the opportunity to take our power back instead of surrendering to the “facts.” We get to see our conditioning and who we were “taught to BE” and what to believe and shift anything that doesn’t resonate with our inner BEing. It gives us an opportunity to BE more loving and gentle with ourselves and take better care of our bodies and our health.

By making peace with the part of us that created the addiction, it will teach us how it’s serving. This will help us get a better understanding of what’s really going on and what we’re needing to BE okay, without needing a “sub-stance” to get through the day. It will give us clues to what we need to do, in order for more LOVE, peace and happiness to flow through.

Most often our addiction(s) naturally fall away on their own when we’re willing to make peace inside and we heal the issue(s) at the core of the addiction, by bringing compassion, LOVE and understanding to the affliction.

Many of us aren’t consciously aware of the core issue because it happened at a younger age and we pushed it down and blocked it from our conscious awareness. We know the essence of it though, it’s showing up in what we believe, how we’re seeing and how we’re living.

If you want to BE free, it can help to get assistance from someone like me. I get it, I’ve been there, I know what it’s like to live the way you do, and I know what it’s like to BE FREE too.

In our sessions together I will hold a space of LOVE for you and assist you in finding your core issue(s). Once you do, the next step is a process of learning how to BE with yourself in loving ways, so you can KNOW that you can handle anything that comes your way and that you don’t “need” a “substance” to get through the day. I will give you valuable tools that will help you be at peace with you and the world around you as you move through earth school.

By healing what’s asking to BE healed, more peace, LOVE, joy, creativity, happiness and YOU will BE revealed. It’s not about BEing perfect or fitting in, it’s about learning how to BE our own best friend.

There’s a power, a presence and a light that lives in you and it wants to shine through, this is the truth of YOU, the question is “Are you ready and willing to allow it to?”

If I can do it, you CAN too, you’ve got what it takes to heal the inner debate and set yourSELF free to live in peace, LOVE, joy and harmony.

Loving you beautiful souls